Let's take a look at some skills we need to meet and select a loving soul partner.
Most singles need to encounter a lot of prospective partners before the right one appears (unless luck and destiny is on your side and you hit the jackpot unexpectedly and quickly!).
For most singles dating is a numbers game and this can be a daunting task for those who find the dating scene uncomfortable, confronting and challenging.
The problem is that many singles settle for an unsuitable partner (or partners), because of the time and effort required to go out and meet prospective partners. They take second best for other reasons as well - because of loneliness, neediness for a partner, neediness for sex, shyness and/or low self esteem. Many singles are also afraid that the sort of partner they want is NOT out there so they think “somebody” will be better than nobody.  But, the irony is that when we settle for less, we get less, and if we settle for a relationship that is not what we really want, it is doomed from the start. We then waste valuable months and years with unsuitable partners. How much time have you got, and how determined are you to shorten this process? Remember you are the director of your own life play.

“It a is a funny thing about life,if you refuse  to accept anything but the best,you very often get it."  -   W.Somerset Maugham

Dating to find a loving committed relationship has to be your priority if that is what you want. 
For this reason I often speak on becoming more attractive from the” inside- out”, so that you can attract prospective partners into your life. When you understand the "laws of attraction" prospective partners will just “show up” without you having to go out all the time to find them. They will show up at the most unlikely times and sometimes in the most unlikely places.
I also teach the "principles of manifesting" in my 1- Day Program - "How to Attract Your Ideal Partner". These principles have been used for thousands of years and many of our greatest teachers and authors, such as Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra talk about these principles regularly.

"Ask and you shall receive" - Proverb

So what are the skills we need apart from understand the laws of attraction and the laws of manifesting?
Here are four effective dating skills that you can start using immediately. 
The four skills below have been put together by Life Partner Quest in the US, and I thought I would share them with you and elaborate on them. I use these personally and I find them fantastic, but as I said earlier I also use the metaphysical principles of attraction and manifestation which makes this process even more powerful.

1. Scouting - the process of finding and meeting like minded partners. A successful single scouts in high quality meeting places where singles with similar interests will be found eg. yoga, personal development seminars, bike clubs, walking clubs,dance classes, etc. Members of these groups will come to know that you are single and looking for a partner and they may also introduce you to prospective partners.

2. Sorting - the process of quickly determining if someone you meet has future potential. A successful single is able to initiate contact with people and in a five minute conversation get enough information to know whether they want to get to know an individual better or move on. Think of it as "working the room" at a party.

3. Screening - the process of getting enough information to determine if a prospective partner meets your “not negotiable” requirements. If one requirement is missing you know the relationship will not work. Since requirements are relationship makers or breakers, all of them must be met. Getting this information can occur over the telephone, by e-mail, over coffee, or taking a walk. If you are looking for a loving committed relationship you can’t afford to explore dead ends. It is important to get this information. Your prospective partner must pass the screening test before you date them and before you get involved. For example if you want a long-term relationship and your prosective partner doesn’t, it is doomed. If you require a partner who loves to travel this will probably be a "not negotiable" for you, or if honesty is your highest value and you notice the partner you are screening says honesty is NOT the most important thing in a relationship, this will end up a relationship breaker, because it will be a “not negotiable”. To screen you must know yourself very well. You must know your values, wants, needs and requirements and know what is negotiable and what isn’t.

“Know thyself” - Socrates

4.Testing - the process of verifying the information you collected during screening. It can take 2 weeks to 6 mths to gain the knowledge and experience that your requirements will be met and that the relationship will work out for both of you.  This is necessary before you decide on or expect an exclusive or a committed relationship to develop.
 Making a good long-term relationship choice requires readiness to commit and clarity about who you are and what you want and require emotionally, physically and spiritually. A relationship also needs to be tested to see if both partners can get what they are looking for from the relationship. 
Personally I think our need for sex gets in the way too often and our intuition and our rational mind goes out the window. Then, when we become involved sexually we start to feel attached and emotionally involved (women can be particularly good at this!). Rather than admit early in the relationship that we have made a mistake, we then try to change our partner, or we just hang in there hoping things will get better because we don't want to be alone again. But of course things only get worse because we didn’t selected wisely in the first place.

The problem is when our partner doesn’t fit the picture of what we want we get frustrated, angry and hurt. So whose fault is it? Both partners are at fault for not asking the questions that are necessary to determine compatibility before getting involved. We have to be conscious and remain aware when dating.

“The quality of our life is the quality of our questions”

If you want to work out your requirements etc and you are not sure how to do it, one session with me probably will be all that is needed.  (2 sessions at the most). This exercise is critical if you are serious about finding a partner.  Just email me to organise a time jane@relationship-remedies.com